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3 Powerful Self Love Spells and Rituals [Only My Favorite]

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Written by: Tina Caro

There is nothing more important than self-love. We are so used to think love is all about loving someone else, showing someone else loving gestures and kind attitudes.

Well, I think that if you don’t love yourself first, you cannot love someone else and, to live a fulfilling life, you need to show yourself some love.

That’s why I think it is so important to learn to please yourself.

“What you think of yourself is far more important than what others think of you” – Seneca.

So if a famous Seneca said this, I believe we must learn about self-love spells, rituals, and how to perform them.


Self-love spells are magical rituals designed to enhance self-love, self-acceptance, and self-esteem.

These spells aim to boost self-confidence, promote self-care, and improve self-image.

Practitioners often use candles, crystals, affirmations, and visualization techniques to foster a deeper sense of self-love and self-compassion.

Self-love spells encourage individuals to prioritize their well-being and happiness as they strive for personal growth and self-improvement.

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Does that sound a little selfish to you?

Well, listen up carefully to what I am going to say because I am going to tell you something about love that probably nobody ever told you before.

In our society, we tend to communicate that loving ourselves is a selfish act and that we should love others first.

How many times have you put other people’s interests before yours?

Many times, I imagine, and maybe you also thought it was the noblest and right choice to make.

If, in some cases, this behavior is appropriate; however, it can often hide a bitter truth.

The hidden truth behind love.

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By: Tina Caro

If I told you to think about the word love what would come to your mind?

Almost certainly love directed towards someone else – your boyfriend, your son, daughter, friend, parents.

In short, think about who you love. Hardly anyone will have visualized themselves thinking about the word love.

And here comes the revelation.

Many failures in relationships do not happen because a person does not love their partner sufficiently. On the contrary, many relationships crumble because one of the partners does not love himself or herself enough.

In fact, whoever does not love himself/herself is never truly capable of loving others.


What are self love spells?

DefinitionSelf Love Spells are magical rituals and practices designed to encourage self-love, self-acceptance, and self-care, fostering a positive and healthy relationship with oneself.
Self-Esteem and EmpowermentThe primary intention of these spells is to boost self-esteem, improve self-worth, and promote self-empowerment, helping individuals love and accept themselves fully.
Ethical ConsiderationsPractitioners approach these spells with ethical considerations, seeking self-improvement and self-love while respecting their own boundaries and well-being.
Inner Healing and GrowthSelf Love Spells often involve inner healing, self-reflection, and personal growth, allowing individuals to address past wounds and embrace self-love.
Self-Care EmphasisThese spells place a strong emphasis on self-care practices, including physical, emotional, and spiritual self-nurturing.

Why should you consider performing a self-love spell?

A self-love spell is a great way to connect with yourself and to help you change the perspective you have of yourself.

Spells are like a little routine, a gesture that can help you listen to yourself in a brand new way, with a gentle approach and an open-hearted mindset.

Self-Love magic can be a fantastic bonus to your daily routine, especially when you feel low, sad, depressed, and you don’t feel at ease with yourself.

The best moment to perform these rituals and spells is in Waxing Moon.

However, you can decide to practice these spells and rituals when you feel ready and open to go!

Most useful herbs when it comes to self-love magick

These are some of the best herbs you can use for self-love spells even if, each one of these herbs, offers many different properties and particular uses.

I usually use lavender, rose petals, mint, basil, lemon, or sandalwood.

Most useful candles when it comes to self-love magick

The best candles for self-love spells are red, orange, white or pink candles!

Using the right color will help you to attract the proper energy to create some effective, powerful magic with amazing results!

How does a self-love spell work?

A self-love spell works like deep inner energy that unveils your beauty within, making you more aware of how you feel and who you are, appreciating every single part of your being.

How long do self-love ritual and spells to manifest?

These spells usually take up to 14 days to manifest but, in some cases, after 10 days, you will start noticing signs of its manifestation process!

My Favorite Self Love Spells and Rituals

My favorite 30-minute self-love ritual

30 Min Self-Love Ritual
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This spell takes a little bit of time.

If you cannot commit truly and entirely to this casting, skip it otherwise, the spell won’t manifest.

Make sure that you will have more than 30 minutes of your time to do it as you need to relax and focus before, during, and after the spell to make it happen.

You don’t need many ingredients as the tricky part is the procedure itself.

This is an advanced ritual, so if you are new to spellwork, make sure you try an easier, more beginner-friendly ritual first.

To perform this powerful white magic self-love ritual, you need a candle as a start.

Preferably choose one that is red or orange, since they are colors associated with vitality, strength, and self-confidence.

However, if you are a true fan of another color, you can use a different color on your candle. I love lilac, so I use a lilac candle for this ritual!

I advise you, yes, that is a medium or large size candle since this ritual will consecrate a candle to provide us with energy and confidence in all the moments that we need it.

Besides, you need an item to carve on the candle. For example, you can use a knife or a wooden or metal stick.

You also need paper and a pen.

Also, you need a plate. Of course, make sure it is a fireproof dish and cannot be broken by contact with the candle.

And sea salt.

Finally, an ingredient that can bring more energy to the ritual is an essential oil of some magical herb.

I recommend basil, lemon, or sandalwood.

But if you don’t have it, don’t worry, it’s not necessary to do this powerful magic.

Of course, if you want, you can make one by heating a pinch of vegetable oil with the zest of lemon peel.

Then you must strain it, and, once cold, you will already have the essence or oil to use it in your spell to regain confidence in me.

So in short:

My favorite 30-minute self-love ritual
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Things you need

  • Red or orange candle
  • Wooden or metal stick for carving
  • Paper and a pen
  • Plate
  • Sea salt
  • Basil, lemon, or sandalwood essential oil
  • A strainer

Difficulty: Advanced
Effectiveness: 5/5

How it’s done

This is a simple ritual that will not take you more than 20 or 30 minutes to perform.

And the best thing is that it will give you speedy results. It is perfect for situations in which we need to regain confidence urgently.

Before starting the spell to have more confidence, I advise you to read the following:

  1. Choose any day you like for casting.
  2. Being a ritual of attraction (or sweet), I recommend that you put all your energy on a Full Moon or Waxing Phase day.
  3. My advice is that you perform this self-love ritual at night or at sunset. And it is that the moon has a powerful effect on spells related to person energy and trust.

Let’s begin

First, make sure you have chosen the most appropriate day (following the advice above) and begin by thanking the Universe for the results that this powerful ritual will give you.

You can say the following sentence aloud:

“Thank you Universe for allowing me to find the love for myself “

Now you must make a circle with salt on the plate.

Once the circle is ready, it is time to take the candle and engrave a sigil on it.

I’ve written a guide about love sigils, so check it out to learn more about them and learn how to create them all by yourself.

Once the symbol is engraved, you can if you have decided to use essential oil to anoint the candle.

Remember that being an attraction ritual; you should start from the top and go to the bottom of the candle.

Do it with your fingers and then wash your hands with soap, water, and a pinch of salt.

Once the candle is ready, you must place it in the middle of the plate and light it with a match.

While it is burning, you must read aloud the following phrase or sentence:

Through this candle that burns bright,
And through this chant I recite,
I ask you Universe to fill me with Love and Light,
May the love always be within me
So be it!

Now, being careful not to burn yourself, burn the paper with the flame of the burning candle. Be very careful while doing it!

While doing so, imagine yourself as a strong and confident person with a deep love towards himself.

To finish the ritual, you must extinguish the candle (with the help of your fingers moistened with your saliva).

You can wrap it in a cloth bag or bag if you wish. You must keep the candle in a safe place.

Whenever you need to instill in your life light and confidence, you will only need to light the candle and let it consume a few minutes.

A mirror self-love and self-respect spell

A mirror self-love spell
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Self-love and self-respect… If you’re working on these two things, then you need to cast this spell!

I highly recommend casting this spell when you feel a bit detached from yourself and not being able to love and respect yourself because of something that happened to you or someone who made you feel like this.

This is an advanced spell so make sure you have at least a little bit of experience before casting this spell.

If you can, cast this spell on a Friday, the perfect day to boost loving energy!

Difficulty: Advanced
Effectiveness: 3/5

A mirror self-love and self-respect spell
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Things you need

How it’s done

Place the mirror on a table, on your altar, or where it is most convenient.

Place the candles around the mirror forming a circle.

Take the herbs in your hands, feel their energy, rub them between your fingers.

Once done, close your eyes and visualize yourself sitting where you are at the moment.

Visualize a green ball of energy as if it were placed on your chest.

You see the light of the ball becoming more and more bright and lively mixed with the light of the candles that are reflected in the mirror and then again on you.

Breathe deeply, exhale slowly then sprinkle the herbs on the mirror and repeat:

“Love inside, love inside
I leave the pain and doubt behind
I recognize the scars
so that I can breathe the stars “

A Goddess self-esteem and self-love ritual

A Goddess self-love ritual
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This ritual requires a lot more components as usually.

However, it’s a powerful one, and it’ll work fantastically if your self-esteem = zero, when you do not recognize quality or are not recognized by those around you, or when you feel invisible while in a group of friends or at work.

If you can, gather all the ingredients, and have at least a little bit of experience with spellwork.

Make sure you cast this spell on a Monday of Waxing crescent moon.

Difficulty: Expert Witch
Effectiveness: 5/5

Things you need

  • Two white candles: one for the Goddess and one represents you
  • Candle holder
  • Parchment paper in which to roll the candle
  • Golden and silver glitter
  • Olive oil
  • Incense with verbena, lavender, bay leaf, cinnamon and rose petals
  • Pestle and mortar
  • An essential oil of bergamot, to mix the incense
  • Heat-resistant saucer
  • Charcoals
  • Offerings

How it’s done

On a Monday with the Crescent Moon, purify everything you will use for the rite.

Prepare your altar and proceed as usual.

Open the circle, call the directions, call the Great Mother, and light her candle.

Declare the goal.

Take the other candle and on it, write your name with a pen.

Grease it with olive oil.

Put it on a baking paper, and then spread the golden and silver glitter until it is completely covered. Light the candle.

It’s time for the incense. Put in the mortar all the ingredients in equal quantities, one at a time.

Crush everything to dust, focusing on your situation. Slowly, replace the bitterness you feel with serenity, with joy, continue to visualize yourself, while congratulating you for your ideas, for what you have managed to do.

When your incense is ready, light a pinch on the burning charcoal, and let the smoke flow all around you, while you visualize yourself full of energy, of love and of clear light.

Thank and dismiss the Goddess, do the same with the Elements, and close the circle.

From time to time, repeat this ritual.

Blow out the candle that represents you, and use it whenever you need to repeat the ritual.

The Goddess candle, on the other hand, must consume until the end, and the remains, together with the offerings, you need to bury in healthy soil (it can be your garden).

Final thoughts

Self-love spells are definitely worth trying to bring some love and light into your life.

If you are new to magic and you want to rely on some professional help, you can hire me to do the casting for you.

Love and Light, Tina

Tina Caro

Tina Caro is a witch with more than 10 years of experience, a yogi, an astrologer, and a passionate supporter of all things holistic! She’s also an owner of the website Magickal Spot where she discusses a variety of her favorite topics.

Magickal Spot has helped thousands of readers worldwide, and she’s personally worked with hundreds of clients and helped them manifest desires to have a happier and more abundant life.

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