Learn to please yourself. What you think of yourself is far more important than what others think of you – Seneca. So if a famous Seneca said this, I believe we must learn about self love spells, rituals, and how to perform them.
With this quote, already 2,000 years ago, Seneca wanted to express the importance of not being affected by the judgment of other people and learning to love yourself before others.
- 1 Why is self-love so important?
- 2 Why should you consider performing a self-love spell?
- 3 My Favorite Self Love Spells and Rituals
- 4 Final thoughts
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Does that sound a little selfish to you?
Well, listen up carefully to what I am going to say because I am going to tell you something about love that probably nobody ever told you before.
In our society, we tend to communicate that loving ourselves is a selfish act and that we should love others first.
How many times have you put other people’s interests before yours?
Many times, I imagine, and maybe you also thought it was the noblest and right choice to make.
If, in some cases, this behavior is appropriate; however, it can often hide a bitter truth.
The hidden truth behind love.
If I told you to think about the word love what would come to your mind?
Almost certainly love directed towards someone else – your boyfriend, your son, daughter, friend, parents.
In short, think about who you love. Hardly anyone will have visualized themselves thinking about the word love.
And here comes the first revelation.
Many failures in relationships do not happen because a person does not love their partner sufficiently. On the contrary, many relationships crumble because one of the partners does not love himself or herself enough.
In fact, whoever does not love himself/herself is never truly capable of loving others.
Why is self-love so important?
Jealousy, envy, blaming others are just some of the negative consequences of shifting the focus first on others than on oneself.
Those who do not love themselves are unhappy and very often manifest the symptoms like:
- constant complaining
- inferiority complexes
- guilt feelings
Do you have any of this?
Those who do not love each other live a life below their means, it is difficult to make the best decisions for themselves and find the job they want.
Only when you can love yourself will you feel truly complete, and you will not need others to fill your voids.
In fact, in relationships, many often look for feelings they have lost, including the ability to truly love each other.
Showing yourself some TLC and some self-love might be quite challenging, and I think that there is nothing better than magic to create a loving, caring feeling towards yourself.
Yes, because, even if when it comes to love spells and love rituals, we often think of someone we want to attract or someone we want to be into us so badly, there is one thing we should consider even before spreading our love towards others: loving ourselves!
Let’s see then how self-love spells can help and which are my favorite self-love spells and rituals.
Why should you consider performing a self-love spell?
A self-love spell is a great way to connect with yourself and to help you change the perspective you have of yourself.
Spells are like a little routine, a gesture that can help you listen to yourself in a brand new way, with a gentle approach and an open-hearted mindset.
Self-Love magic can be a fantastic bonus to your daily routine, especially when you feel low, sad, depressed, and you don’t feel at ease with yourself.
The best moment to perform these rituals and spells is in Waxing Moon.
However, you can decide to practice these spells and rituals when you feel ready and open to go!
Most useful herbs when it comes to self-love magick
These are some of the best herbs you can use for self-love spells even if, each one of these herbs, offers many different properties and particular uses.
I usually use lavender, rose petals, mint, basil, lemon, or sandalwood.
Most useful candles when it comes to self-love magick
Using the right color will help you to attract the proper energy to create some effective, powerful magic with amazing results!
My Favorite Self Love Spells and Rituals
My favorite 30 min self-love ritual
To perform this powerful white magic self-love ritual, you need a candle as a start.
Preferably choose one that is red or orange, since they are colors associated with vitality, strength, and self-confidence.
However, if you are a true fan of another color, you can use a different color on your candle. I love lilac, so I use a lilac candle for this ritual!
I advise you, yes, that is a medium or large size candle since this ritual will consecrate a candle to provide us with energy and confidence in all the moments that we need it.
Besides, you need an item to carve on the candle. For example, you can use a knife or a wooden or metal stick.
You also need paper and a pen.
Also, you need a plate. Of course, make sure it is a fireproof dish and cannot be broken by contact with the candle.
And sea salt.
Finally, an ingredient that can bring more energy to the ritual is an essential oil of some magical herb.
I recommend basil, lemon, or sandalwood.
But if you don’t have it, don’t worry, it’s not necessary to do this powerful magic.
Of course, if you want, you can make one by heating a pinch of vegetable oil with the zest of lemon peel.
Then you must strain it, and, once cold, you will already have the essence or oil to use it in your spell to regain confidence in me.
So in short:
Things you need
- Red or orange candle
- Wooden or metal stick for carving
- Paper and a pen
- Sea salt
- Basil, lemon, or sandalwood essential oil
- A strainer
How it’s done
This is a simple ritual that will not take you more than 20 or 30 minutes to perform.
And the best thing is that it will give you speedy results. It is perfect for situations in which we need to regain confidence urgently.
Before starting the spell to have more confidence, I advise you to read the following:
- Choose any day you like for casting.
- Being a ritual of attraction (or sweet), I recommend that you put all your energy on a Full Moon or Waxing Phase day.
- My advice is that you perform this self-love ritual at night or at sunset. And it is that the moon has a powerful effect on spells related to person energy and trust.
First, make sure you have chosen the most appropriate day (following the advice above) and begin by thanking the Universe for the results that this powerful ritual will give you.
You can say the following sentence aloud:
“Thank you Universe for allowing me to find the love for myself “
Now you must make a circle with salt on the plate.
Once the circle is ready, it is time to take the candle and engrave a sigil on it.
I’ve written a guide about love sigils, so check it out to learn more about them and learn how to create them all by yourself.
Once the symbol is engraved, you can if you have decided to use essential oil to anoint the candle.
Remember that being an attraction ritual; you should start from the top and go to the bottom of the candle.
Do it with your fingers and then wash your hands with soap, water, and a pinch of salt.
Once the candle is ready, you must place it in the middle of the plate and light it with a match.
While it is burning, you must read aloud the following phrase or sentence:
Through this candle that burns bright,
And through this chant I recite,
I ask you Universe to fill me with Love and Light,
May the love always be within me
So be it!
Now, being careful not to burn yourself, burn the paper with the flame of the burning candle. Be very careful while doing it!
While doing so, imagine yourself as a strong and confident person with a deep love towards himself.
To finish the ritual, you must extinguish the candle (with the help of your fingers moistened with your saliva).
You can wrap it in a cloth bag or bag if you wish. You must keep the candle in a safe place.
Whenever you need to instill in your life light and confidence, you will only need to light the candle and let it consume a few minutes.
A mirror self-love and self-respect spell
Self-love and self-respect… If you’re working on these two things, then you need to cast this spell!
Things you need
- A mirror
- Three blue candles
- Three red or pink candles
- One or more of these herbs: Lavender, rose petals, chamomile and/or mint
- A mirror
How it’s done
Place the mirror on a table, on your altar, or where it is most convenient.
Place the candles around the mirror forming a circle.
Take the herbs in your hands, feel their energy, rub them between your fingers.
Once done, close your eyes and visualize yourself sitting where you are at the moment.
Visualize a green ball of energy as if it were placed on your chest.
You see the light of the ball becoming more and more bright and lively mixed with the light of the candles that are reflected in the mirror and then again on you.
Breathe deeply, exhale slowly then sprinkle the herbs on the mirror and repeat:
“Love inside, love inside
I leave the pain and doubt behind
I recognize the scars
so that I can breathe the stars “
A Goddess self-esteem and self-love ritual
This ritual requires a lot more components as usually.
However, it’s a powerful one, and it’ll work fantastically if your self-esteem = zero, when you do not recognize quality or are not recognized by those around you, or when you feel invisible while in a group of friends or at work.
Difficulty: Expert Witch
Things you need
- Two white candles: one for the Goddess and one represents you
- Candle holder
- Parchment paper in which to roll the candle
- Golden and silver glitter
- Olive oil
- Incense with verbena, lavender, bay leaf, cinnamon and rose petals
- Pestle and mortar
- An essential oil of bergamot, to mix the incense
- Heat-resistant saucer
How it’s done
On a Monday with the Crescent Moon, purify everything you will use for the rite.
Prepare your altar and proceed as usual.
Open the circle, call the directions, call the Great Mother, and light her candle.
Declare the goal.
Take the other candle and on it, write your name with a pen.
Grease it with olive oil.
Put it on a baking paper, and then spread the golden and silver glitter until it is completely covered. Light the candle.
It’s time for the incense. Put in the mortar all the ingredients in equal quantities, one at a time.
Crush everything to dust, focusing on your situation. Slowly, replace the bitterness you feel with serenity, with joy, continue to visualize yourself, while congratulating you for your ideas, for what you have managed to do.
When your incense is ready, light a pinch on the burning charcoal, and let the smoke flow all around you, while you visualize yourself full of energy, of love and of clear light.
Thank and dismiss the Goddess, do the same with the Elements, and close the circle.
From time to time, repeat this ritual.
Blow out the candle that represents you, and use it whenever you need to repeat the ritual.
The Goddess candle, on the other hand, must consume until the end, and the remains, together with the offerings, you need to bury in healthy soil (it can be your garden).
Self-love spells are definitely worth trying to bring some love and light into your life.
If you are new to magic and you want to rely on some professional help, you can hire me to do the casting for you.
Love and Light, Tina