This advanced self-love ritual is a transformative spell designed to rekindle confidence, strength, and self-love. It harnesses the power of focused intent, color symbolism, and lunar energy to help you feel more connected to yourself.
While simple in ingredients, it requires patience, dedication, and careful execution.
If you’re ready to devote 30 minutes to this powerful spell, you’ll create a consecrated candle that will continue to provide energy and confidence whenever needed.
Contents
- Ingredients You’ll Need
- Getting ready for the ritual
- How to Perform the Ritual
- What to do after the ritual?
- Frequently Asked Questions
- Can I use a different candle color?
- What if I don’t have essential oils?
- Do I need to perform the ritual on a specific day?
- What should I do with the candle after the ritual?
- Can I skip the step of burning the paper?
- Is this ritual safe for beginners?
- How soon will I see results?
- Can I perform this ritual with others?
- What if the candle burns out before I finish?
- Can I modify the incantation?
- What should I do if the ritual doesn’t work for me?
- Is it necessary to extinguish the candle with saliva?
- Conclusion
Ingredients You’ll Need
- A red or orange candle (or your favorite color if it resonates deeply with you).
- A wooden or metal stick for carving.
- Paper and a pen.
- A plate (fireproof).
- Sea salt.
- Essential oil (optional: basil, lemon, or sandalwood).
- A strainer (if making your own essential oil).
Getting ready for the ritual
Choose the Right Day:
Perform this ritual during a Full Moon or Waxing Moon phase for the most potent results. The best time is at night or during sunset when the moon’s influence is strongest.
Gather Positive Intentions:
Before starting, ground yourself and express gratitude for the results you seek.
Say aloud:
“Thank you, Universe, for allowing me to find the love for myself.”
How to Perform the Ritual
Create a Circle of Salt:
On the plate, arrange a circle of sea salt, symbolizing protection and containment of energy.

Carve Your Candle:
Using the stick, carve a sigil or a symbol of love and self-confidence onto the candle. You can refer to guides on creating personal sigils if needed.

Anoint the Candle (Optional):
If you have essential oil, apply it to the candle, starting from the top and moving to the base. This action represents drawing attraction and love into your life.
Wash your hands afterward with soap, water, and a pinch of salt to cleanse residual energy.

Light the Candle:
Place the prepared candle in the center of the salt circle and light it with a match.

Recite the Incantation:
While the candle burns, say the following:
“Through this candle that burns bright,
And through this chant I recite,
I ask you, Universe, to fill me with love and light.
May the love always be within me.
So be it!”
Burn the Paper:
Write your desires for self-love and confidence on a piece of paper. Carefully burn it using the candle flame, imagining yourself as a confident, strong, and self-loving individual.


Extinguish the Candle:
Once the ritual is complete, extinguish the candle using your moistened fingers (with saliva) to preserve its energy for future use.

What to do after the ritual?
Store the Candle:
Keep the candle in a safe place. Whenever you need a boost of self-confidence or love, light it for a few minutes and let its energy radiate.
Release Gratitude:
Spend a moment reflecting on the ritual and express gratitude to the Universe for its support.
This ritual is perfect for moments when you need to reconnect with yourself and draw strength from within. It serves as a beautiful reminder of your power and the love that resides within you.
Frequently Asked Questions
Can I use a different candle color?
Yes, while red or orange candles are recommended for their association with vitality and confidence, you can use a color that resonates with your personal energy or intentions. For example, lilac for peace or pink for self-love.
What if I don’t have essential oils?
Essential oils are optional. If you don’t have any, the ritual will still work effectively. If you prefer, you can make a simple infused oil using lemon zest and vegetable oil.
Do I need to perform the ritual on a specific day?
It’s ideal to perform this ritual during a Full Moon or Waxing Moon phase, as these times amplify personal energy and attraction. However, you can do it whenever you feel the need for self-love and confidence.
What should I do with the candle after the ritual?
Keep the candle in a safe place and use it as a confidence booster when needed. Light it for a few minutes whenever you want to invoke its energy.
Can I skip the step of burning the paper?
The act of burning the paper is symbolic of releasing your intentions to the Universe. If you’re uncomfortable with fire, you can tear the paper into small pieces and safely bury it, imagining your intentions taking root and growing.
Is this ritual safe for beginners?
This ritual is considered advanced due to the focus, intent, and precision required. If you’re new to spellwork, try simpler self-love rituals first to build confidence and energy alignment.
How soon will I see results?
Results vary based on your energy, focus, and the clarity of your intentions. Many people report feeling an immediate boost in confidence, while deeper changes may take time.
Can I perform this ritual with others?
This ritual is deeply personal and best performed alone. However, if you’re comfortable, you can adapt it for a group setting by modifying the steps to include shared intentions.
What if the candle burns out before I finish?
If the candle burns out unexpectedly, don’t panic. Simply relight it and continue where you left off, ensuring your focus and intent remain strong.
Can I modify the incantation?
Yes, you can personalize the incantation to better align with your energy and intentions. The most important aspect is that it resonates deeply with you.
What should I do if the ritual doesn’t work for me?
Sometimes rituals take time, or additional focus and clarity may be needed. Reflect on your mindset during the ritual and consider trying it again during a more energetically aligned time, like a Full Moon.
Is it necessary to extinguish the candle with saliva?
This step is traditional to preserve the candle’s energy, but you can use a candle snuffer or your fingers if preferred. Avoid blowing it out, as it’s believed to disperse the energy.
Conclusion
The 30-Minute Self-Love Ritual is a profound yet simple practice to reignite your inner strength and confidence.
By channeling the energy of the moon and focusing on your intentions, this spell empowers you to embrace your self-worth and radiate positivity.
Whether you’re facing self-doubt or simply need a boost, this ritual serves as a reminder that the love and strength you seek are already within you.
Keep the candle as a beacon of self-love, lighting it whenever you need to reconnect with your inner power. Trust in the Universe and, most importantly, trust in yourself. So be it!