Doing shadow work on yourself is one of the best practices you can perform to let yourself embrace your uniqueness and the wholeness of your soul while learning to acknowledge the different nuances of your soul. Doing shadow work on yourself can sound a bit overwhelming and hard to do, especially if you are new to personal growth processes and self-awareness, but with this step-by-step guide, everything will be easier for you!
- 1 Why do I need to shadow work in my craft?
- 2 So How do you do shadow work on yourself? Here’s a guide
- 3 Additional shadow work exercises
Why do I need to shadow work in my craft?
You need to do shadow work in your craft because you need to unveil your true desires, your true colors, and your true self in order to focus on a spell, a ritual, or whatever you want to perform by being very centered with your emotions, your visions, and your goals.
Why our dark side is important?
I really think that most of our true self is hidden in what we try to shut down, so work with this side will bring your true self, your authenticity, to life.
So How do you do shadow work on yourself? Here’s a guide
Find a moment of peace
You can do this at night or first thing in the morning. It really doesn’t matter as long as you have a moment of peace and relaxation to dedicate to this practice and to really commit. Turn your smartphone off. No distractions needed.
Choose your focus
What area of your life is causing you more trouble? What’s the goal of your craft? Are you dealing with heartbreak? Are you dealing with some cheating? Do you have issues with someone or something in particular? This is your time to focus on this.
When you become aware of the thing or the person you need to focus on, it’s finally time to face it. Don’t be afraid of how this makes you feel but, on the contrary, turn all your senses on!
Do you feel angry? Hurt? Depressed? Envious? Give yourself permission to feel that way, to be that person you would like to suppress.
Imagine this person, this situation showing the qualities that make you mad and upset or those that you like the most.
If you want, you can write them down in a journal. It can be a wonderful way to analyze yourself with a brand-new perspective.
Create a dialogue
Imagine this person, situation, or feeling taking shape and create a dialogue with it. Don’t be scared and don’t feel silly in doing this. You will feel so much better once you are able to release all this.
Say things like:
- I hate you.
- You make me feel mad.
- You upset me.
Or even ask a few questions to explore the reasons behind your connection and emotional response with them:
- Why are you doing this to me?
- What’s your hidden message for me?
- Where this is going to lead me?
Imagine this person answering these questions for you, if you need to you can write them down.
Let emotions come out.
It’s finally time to let your emotions come out and become vibrant and alive. Even if they are negative emotions, painful feelings, or despicable behaviors, don’t hold yourself back.
Say out loud things like:
- I am suffering.
- I feel angry.
- I feel obsessed.
- I feel furious.
- I feel broken-hearted.
You can write these down as well.
Now you can let yourself be that person.
Say the words: I AM ANGRY, I AM FURIOUS, I AM BROKEN-HEARTED, I AM OBSESSED AND SO ON… be that person.
Honor the pain, the emotions, the suffering, honor yourself at 360 degrees.
Embrace your shadow
I usually do a little ritual to embrace my shadow and my darkest feelings and emotions.
After I go through all those steps I listed above, I go to a dark room or a simply pull my curtain down, light a white candle, and I write on a sheet of paper a sentence about my feelings, my connection with someone or something. I write as deep as I can with details to make it very clear.
I try to create a soothing atmosphere where I can see my shadow and I say these words:
My dark side
I know you, I bless you, I embrace you
No need to hold it back
I want you to be bright
Without darkness there is no light
Embracing your shadow will give you the chance to really explore the realm of your wishes, your dreams, and the life you really want to live.
Remember to live this as a process, a journey of self-discovery and self-growth.
Repeat the practice to do shadow work on yourself as many times as you need to really connect with your shadow and let it come to life.
Additional shadow work exercises
Getting to know your shadow by answering these questions
These are the best questions to ask yourself to do shadow work and really get to know yourself from a unique, different perspective. Write them in your journal or on a sheet of paper, being honest and open.
- What is the thing I fear most about finding out about myself?
- What is the most mortifying lie I have told myself?
- What’s the biggest lie I’ve ever told?
- What is the thing I’m most ashamed of if others find out?
- When did I start to reject this aspect of my true self?
- Where does it come from?
- Who did I inherit it from or do I think of?
- Who made me ashamed of it?
- Who have I seen ashamed of this?
- What judgments do I feel thinking about this aspect of me?
- Make a list of all the times you remember having put it into effect.
Shadow Work mirror ritual
Stand in front of the mirror, look into your eyes, and pronounce the adjectives you have chosen in the form:
“I am XXX” (eg. “I am a manipulator”)
Do it for all the adjectives you can find to describe yourself until you find the one to work on: you will know that you are working with the most activating aspect of your Shadow because you will have an intense emotional reaction.
At this point change the sentence to: “I am not XXX” (eg. “I am not a manipulator”)
It is normal to see your reactions and emotions change and go from guilt, shame, and sadness to anger and aggression.
When you feel that that phrase pushes you to a strong motivation for change and you start to see that it can be used as a power tool for activating change, stop repeating the phrase and leave the mirror, with a big smile.
The transmutation has begun.
Are you intrigued by shadow work? Would you give this practice a try? Let me know! And remember that this practice is here to help you reconnect with yourself in heart, body, and soul as self-awareness is the main key to open up your intuition and let the magic happen!